Relapse Prevention for Addiction & Mental Health: Counselor Toolbox Episode 115

Relapse Prevention for Addiction & Mental Health: Counselor Toolbox Episode 115


This episode was pre-recorded as part of
a live continuing education webinar. On demand CEUs are still available for this
presentation through ALLCEUs. Register at ALLCEUs.com/CounselorToolbox. I’d like to welcome everybody today’s
presentation. Today we’re going to be talking about relapse prevention for
addiction and mental health issues and one of the things I’m going to start out
and if you’ve been to my classes before then this is going to be old hat for you
but for the new people I really look at when I talk about addiction or mental
health I’m really thinking co-occurring because we know that they estimate 47%
of people struggle with addictive behaviors and we know that you know
somewhere around thirty percent of people have some mental health issues
going on we also know that when people are in active addiction or recovering
from active addiction it’s almost always true that they’re going to have some
sort of mental health stuff going on because their neurotransmitters are out
of balance and the reason for that could be different for you know a multitude of
reasons but we we want to realize that if somebody is depressed and sober
they’re not going to stay sober for very long if that depression is oppressive
likewise if they are feeling pretty good but they’re using then using is probably
going to muck up their neurotransmitters and they’re going to have a relapse of
their mental health issues so when I talk about relapse I talk about relapse
in terms of the whole person in terms of mood and behaviors and urges so this is
going to be a broader relapse prevention than maybe you might be used to so we’re
going to define relapse identify relapse warning signs identify people’s
strengths because when people are in a place where they’re getting ready to
relapse they’ve probably been walking down that path for a while and this is
kind of their Black Swan and we’ll talk about that but when people are in a
place where they’re getting ready to relapse they’re in a bit of a crisis so
having them start with a tool that they’ve never used before is going to be
less effective than saying what’s worked before when you’ve been able to stay
clean when you’ve been able to be happy when you’ve been able to not be
anxious for an hour for a day what has worked you know I’m not talking about
two weeks six months whatever I’m talking about small goals let’s not
start setting goals that are too high right now if somebody is really
struggling just to get through this minute let’s figure out how to help them
get through this hour and then maybe the rest of the day and we’ll learn about
how the issues developed in the first place and what we can do to prevent
walking down that relapse path again so relapse is the return to something
that’s been previously stopped and you know I put it really broadly because
it’s not just using addictive substances that means the behaviors associated with
depression that means the symptoms associated with depression the symptoms
associated with anxiety those come back up
relapse recurrence whatever you want to call it and it’s multi-dimensional there
are emotional aspects to every relapse and generally they’re not pleasant
you’re not going to relapse and just be elated about it most likely there was
some sort of lack of pleasure anxiety stress depression grief something
unpleasant mental relapse is when that thinking starts to change physical
relapse we’re talking really about the neurotransmitter starting to get wonky
sleep starting to get wonky because and wonky is one of my favorite clinical
terms I apologize if it bugs you but when people are starting to feel
stressed and depressed their threat response system goes off which means
they’re not going to get quality sleep and they don’t get quality sleep that’s
going to have a negative cascade effect on the rest of their life
so physical relapse a lot of people stop sleeping as well stop eating as well
they may start engaging in some unhealthy or behaviors and then social
relax is and remember I talked about social in terms of self-esteem your
relationship with yourself as well as your relationship with others but in
both of them in many cases this will withdrawal you just kind of numb out and
you’re not feeling or you’re trying to withdraw
other people because you can’t handle dealing with anything right now because
you’re barely dealing with your own life so we’re going to talk more about those
and relapse is a return to any of these people places things behaviors or
feeling states so that’s a lot of stuff which is why we’re going to emphasize or
I’m going to emphasize mindfulness so much throughout this process over 20
years of working with people with mental health issues and addictions one of the
common threads that I’ve seen with most relapses now every once in a while
somebody’s doing really well and then the rug gets pulled out from under them
they get diagnosed with terminal cancer or something and you know that’s a whole
different ballgame but in general the majority of people who relapse
especially the ones that say it came from out of the blue they quit being
mindful you know six weeks six months ago they were feeling pretty good
they’re like I don’t need these meetings anymore or I don’t need to go to these
groups anymore or I don’t need to do this anymore
or other things just started taking priority and they say you know I’m
feeling pretty good so you know what the boss needs me to do this you know extra
overtime no problem and they start going back into that autopilot mode not
keeping a priority on the recovery behaviors one activity I have my clients
do and you can phrase it however you want you can either do addicted versus
sober which is actually the clinic I came from that I learned this activity
it’s where it started and obviously 20 years ago we didn’t know as much about
co-occurring so we didn’t understand the interaction you’re nearly as much now I
present it in terms of unhappiness versus happiness because in our
unhappiness in our addiction in our whatever that state is for that person
how are you behaving acting feeling emotionally how are you behaving acting
feeling thinking mentally you know are you negative are you optimistic
pessimistic are you worried physically how do you treat yourself and what
going on in your body even if you’re not doing it what’s going on in your body
when you’re in your unhealthy unhappy addicted state versus when you’re in
your recovery state and socially how do you interact differently how do you feel
differently about yourself and other people when you’re in that relapse state
versus when you’re in your recovery state and you can choose whatever words
fit your clients whatever words seem to resonate with them most in order to make
this happen this makes for a great group activity if you want to put it up on the
board and have different columns for emotional mental physical and social on
one board and then do the same thing on the other board for the recovery and
have them identify how they are different because this is what they’re
going to start looking for when they’re doing their mindfulness if they start
noticing that their mood has turned a little bit more South or worried or
however they want to put it or if they start notice they’re being more negative
or impatient or intolerant these are early clues that something is amiss at
the circle-k and they need to check in and figure out
what’s going on in their recovery plan now they may just be stressed out and
they need to tune up certain behaviors maybe they need to just call it at work
for the day and you know after they go get out of work go hang out with friends
go to a meeting go to a support group go see their coach whatever it is but this
is a clue and I love when I hear clients and friends and anybody identifying when
they are feeling vulnerable when they are feeling like they’re not in their
happy mode but not in their recovery mode go you know what I need to do
something different because I’m in a bad space and they do that before they get
to a full-blown relapse and I just like score I really love seeing seeing that
so once we identify how you’re different when you’re in your relapse state
versus your recovery state we want to start talking about triggers okay we
know how that you’re feeling a little bit differently we know that you may be
starting to be feel negative things like that but what’s triggering that and we
want to look at four stimuli that are setting off the event it could be a
phone call from somebody it could be a bill you got in the mail it could be
maybe you have bad memories or memories that revolved around using
at where your parents live and you’re having to go home for a family reunion
or something there are a variety of different triggers that can set off an
event and being aware of those things that trigger your unhappiness or your
relapse sort of stuff versus the things that trigger your happiness and triggers
work both ways these are just stimuli it’s just a fancy word for stimuli and
it doesn’t have to be bad and we’ll talk more about creating positive triggers in
the environment later but triggers can be visual anything you can see you’re
driving down the interstate and you see a billboard that talks about something
you know for me if I saw a billboard that talked about how many animals were
euthanized every year I would just be like okay really that’s depressing now
would it take me down this whole depressive road probably not but being
aware that there are triggers in the environment there are triggers on
television shows I used to watch there was a show called wings on many many
years ago and one of the characters had an eating disorder and they would kind
of poke fun at that a lot and as someone with an eating disorder myself I took it
a little bit personally you know that was one of those things that would I
would find myself getting wrapped up in so being aware of what your triggers are
and being aware of how to deal with them so they don’t take you down to that path
just because it’s a trigger doesn’t mean you have to act on it you can just let
it pass auditories triggers things you hear if you hear something that reminds
you of something else we talked about pee
PSB in the last in the last class and for many people there are auditory
triggers to their trauma they heard things leading up to the trauma or they
heard things during the trauma that now triggered traumatic memories so being
aware of auditory triggers tactile things you can feel and you know these
are a little bit different but for needle users for example the feeling of
something tight around their arm can be a trigger so just encourage people to
think olfactory which is smelling our senses our sense of smell is one of our
greatest triggers for memories so what do these smells tell you and if you
start feeling negative impulsive feeling like you want to use whatever your
relapse is stop and think am i smelling something that’s triggering that memory
and if so what could I smell differently how could I get out of this situation I
always encourage people to keep something pleasant whether it’s an
essential oil or just smell that they like on a hankie in a plastic bag either
you know if you’re female in your purse if you’re a guy you know find somewhere
you can stick it where it’s easily accessible sometimes guys put it in
their cars or their briefcase or something that way if you’re having a
moment and part of it is from smell you can kind of jar yourself back into the
present cognitive cognitive triggers or any kind of thought triggers if you
start getting negative impulsive feeling like you can’t do it all those cognitive
distortions that we talked about and tempora and this is one that people
forget about time or location if you’ve done grief work this is no surprise to
you because we know that it takes at least a year after a loss for somebody
to really fully work through it in many cases because you have to go through
those anniversaries you have to go through those holidays you have to go
through certain things accept it each one of those points in
time that you know that person or that thing is no longer there and sometimes
it takes longer than a year but there are a lot of time or location oriented
things that can trigger relapses it can also trigger happy things you know I
think I gave the example the other day that when you wake up in the morning if
you realize it’s your birthday and you like your birthday then that is a
temporal trigger for happiness so what kinds of things can you look forward to
you want to put temporal triggers in your day something to look forward to
each day at least a couple times a week so I said earlier that there are
multiple kinds of relapse in emotional relapses your emotions and behaviors
become negative and unpleasant and those are really broad garbage terms obviously
we want to narrow it down a lot more with our clients when we’re talking
about what are the earliest signs of your relapse I was talking earlier about
how sometimes people are feeling good and in substance abuse recovery we talk
about a pink cloud and this is when they think they’ve got it licked they think
they are you know they’re recovered and they start getting overconfident and
overconfidence is one of the first signs of relapse for many people because
that’s when they start losing their motivation to do the hard work of
continuing the new recovery behaviors and I do say that recovery is hard it’s
hard work it gets easier as those behaviors become more second nature it
becomes a lot easier to do the next right thing and you know be great with
it but my first year and maybe for some people even that first two years it’s
work to remember to do the next right thing to use the distress tolerance
skills to call a friend to do whatever you’re supposed to do so we know that
when people are feeling good and you know sometimes it’s because life is
going well and you know life will go well sometimes and that’s awesome but
you don’t necessarily know at some point you may be throwing a lemon
you’ve got to be prepared to handle that and if you’re not on your a-game it may
catch you upside the head and nobody likes getting hit upside the head by
lemon so I told you I was goofy today sorry anyhow we want to make sure that
people are aware of what their personal emotional states are that an emotional
and mental kind of getting mishmash for a lot of clients and that’s okay I’m not
real particular but what’s changing that leads you to start being less diligent
about your recovery activities a lot of clients will then start buying finding
it difficult to experience pleasure all of a sudden you know they got
overconfident they stop doing the next right thing now those old behaviors of
maybe staying up late or not eating well or you know whatever it is those are
starting to kick in and you’re starting to feel the way you used to feel so it
starts to be more difficult to experience pleasure I encourage them to
be aware of the things that trigger their negative emotions even if they are
in technically straight addiction recovery a lot of times we find that
people in their addiction were self-medicating some sort of mood
disorder now that may have not have existed before the addiction but once
the addiction was there and the neurotransmitters got messed up there
was a mood disorder and when they would start to sober up you know let’s take
cocaine for example a lot of people when they start to sober up from cocaine you
know they’ve been running hot for a long time so they’re feeling apathetic and
unmotivated and depressed and people don’t want to feel that way so a lot of
times they go back out and use again but I also encourage them to look a lot of
times people overlook some of the secondary emotions if you will they
think about anger you know what really ticks me off but I also want to look at
resentment a lot of people hold a lot of resentment and it’s exhausting to hold
on to that stuff okay that’s another one that you know
kind of pops up pretty easily for people jealousy and guilt not so much so we
want to look at and encourage people to look at issues surrounding jealousy and
envy and guilt because those are also very draining emotions and a lot of
times we don’t give them kind of the credit they deserve for how much energy
they take and what a toll they take on our self-esteem and our social
relationships and all that other stuff we want to look at what triggers anxiety
and fear but also stress a lot of people don’t think of the things that trigger
their anxiety or their worry as being the same things that trigger stress
stress they put in a category by itself they had a stressful day it wasn’t
necessarily worrisome it was just kind of overwhelming so that’s okay fine
however you want to describe it and then depression but any of those dysphoric
feelings that people can say yeah I felt that well then we want to look at what
triggered it sometimes they can avoid those triggers I’ve shared with you
before that I avoid at all costs watching any ASPCA commercials they just
are devastating and cut to my core so I won’t watch those it’s not something
that’s something I have to do there are other things that are kind of
challenging emotionally that I do have to do and that’s okay
but anything that you can get rid of that’s not mandatory I don’t like
driving and lots of traffic so I try to avoid whenever possible driving during
rush hour so that’s another way to avoid some triggers for negative emotions
because the more of those you avoid the more energy you have to deal with the
stuff you can’t avoid makes sense I’ve got a little eater negative emotions
make us uncomfortable so we want to have people identify the emotion explore why
they are feeling that way and take steps to filled up to fix the problem
so when clients feel we’ll just pick anger when a client
feels angry I want them occasionally they’re not going to be able to do this
every time they feel angry or they’d never get anything done most people
experience 15 anger situations a day so you know nobody has time to do this for
every time but reflecting on 1 or 2 times that somebody got angry if they
can do it in the moment even better but I’m happy if they just reflectively
think about it at the end of the day identify the emotion explore why they
felt that way and what steps would it take to fix the problem reminding them
that they can become stuck in emotion sometimes by nurturing it and blowing it
out of proportion when they get angry just swelling on it and thinking oh how
dare they and and you know I think we all go there every once in a while and
we step back and we like well that doesn’t make any sense to have an
argument with somebody in my own head they compound it with other emotions
like anger and guilt getting angry at yourself for being angry about something
again doesn’t make a lot of sense but we do it so encouraging people to say is
this a good use of my energy is it going to fix anything
personalizing something and thinking it’s all about me or catastrophizing or
just trying to escape from it and fight it and go well I shouldn’t feel this way
I shouldn’t feel this way well you feel that way so instead of fighting with it
kind of like fighting with quicksand and getting sucked deeper down into it
people can learn to stress tolerance skills to let that feeling go and one of
the images I like to use is a cloud because I love laying out on on the
grass and watching the clouds and making little cloud animals yes I’m 45 and I
still do that but well but watching the cloud just kind of come and go and just
like those little cloud animals they may be one thing it may be a dinosaur but
then it morphs into something else like a teddy bear and imagining their
feelings just kind of floating by like a cloud or maybe even
morphing as it floats by into something more positive
remember that emotions are just cues like a stuffed light you don’t have to
act on them it suggested you know when you see a stop light a green light yeah
you can keep on going yellow light yeah that depends on your prior experiences
whether you should gun it or slow down but it doesn’t necessarily mean that
something has to happen you know it could be a green light remembering that
they feel how they feel in the moment and trying to tell themselves they
shouldn’t feel that way or change it you know it is what it is you can improve
the next moment and that’s a lot of semantics and it takes a while for some
people to kind of understand the difference between changing their
feelings and improving the next moment but once they get the hang of it the
sense of relief is pretty palpable preventing emotion will relax practice
mindfulness you want to try to encourage yourself to be aware of where you are
identify any vulnerabilities that may make you more prone to emotional
dysregulation and address those but also increase positive experiences if you
can’t do it for real you know maybe you’ve got a really busy day and you
can’t go walk in the park or watch the birds or whatever it is that you do fine
take 15 minutes and you close your eyes or sit in a chair somewhere quietly and
it goes through some guided imagery go to a happy place if you will and just
try to imagine something positive or you know you can also find some videos or
turn on a comedian that you really like anything that will increase positive
experiences because you can’t be miserable and happy at the same time now
your mate you may not be going going from being completely stressed out to
Didius whatever but you can be less unhappy you can take the edge off you
can buffer it and get away put some disk between you and that negative emotion
for a few minutes encourage people to people gratitude
journal sometimes just reflecting on yeah things kind of suck right now but
in the big scheme of things this is a moment and in the big scheme of things
it’s not so bad you know my life is pretty good I’ve got
these things going for me encouraged people to avoid personalizing things
that are not about them and you know that’s one of those pretty prominent
cognitive distortions that we see and once people start looking for the
possibilities and I you know my favorite number three identify three
possibilities that this could have happened other than you you know if you
run into somebody who’s grumpy identify three reasons that they might be grumpy
that has nothing to do with you the car breaks down you know the first
thought people have is uh why me well it’s not about you most likely it’s
about something that has to do with the car so encouraging people to kind of put
themselves give themself some distance remember the negative emotions in the
minds way of telling them to kind of get off their butts and do something
my father used to call it the idiot light when you’d be driving and that
light that says low the low fuel light would go on or the the low pressure
light and that’s our way you know that’s the cars way of saying we’re going to
run out of gas if you don’t stop and get some gas pretty soon but negative
emotions is our our minds way of saying you’re going to run out of gas if you
don’t do something to change this situation dwelling on nurturing avoiding
or hiding from negative emotions never makes it better we can let it go and
again that’s a semantic difference you’re not avoiding by letting it go
you’re identifying it acknowledging it and letting it move past going this is
not worth my energy and that’s different than avoiding the emotion avoiding the
emotion would be if somebody did something that really made you angry and
you just walked away but then you were still dwelling on it
and it gets stuck you can choose to feel and fix or relapse and repeat people
need to feel their emotions even the unpleasant ones but it’s okay to feel
them and that’s where the distress tolerance skills come in empowering
people to learn that you know what I can feel this feeling and I don’t have to
act on whatever urge it is whether it’s self-harm or using or screaming at
somebody or whatever it is that they do and they can feel that and then they can
fix or improve the next moment or they can avoid feeling with it avoid feeling
it stuff it down somewhere where they’re constantly going to have to devote
energy to holding it down and because I haven’t dealt with it and you’re going
to keep repeating the same cycle we want to encourage clients to identify and put
in place triggers for positive emotions and this is kind of a new concept
triggers for positive emotions you can put alarms on your smartphone you can
put sticky notes on your microwave you can put you know I usually write in lip
pencil because it’s easier to get off but I’ll write on my bathroom mirror or
something you can do a variety of things to remind yourself to do some happy
things today I have a app on my phone that’s not not jokes it doesn’t take
much to amuse me and you know their inning they are designed for you know
like five to eight year-olds but according to Netflix that’s how old I am
anyway so you know whatever whatever makes you happy and laughs but it
doesn’t do any good to have the app on your phone if you don’t open it so what
triggers can you put in your environment that reminds you to look at the
knock-knock jokes or do something happy each day and increase people to start
slow you know one or one or two things each day they’ll start feeling better
and they’ll start wanting to do more positive things have people list ten
things that they chose to get anxious or angry
about over the last week and this is a good group activity and
they do this I well I have them do this on their notepad identify the ten things
that they chose to get anxious or angry about I have them identify why they got
upset what was your mind telling you needed to be fixed what needed to be
changed what did you need to do and I have everybody go through and identify
that for each of the ten things and then we go around the room and I ask does
anybody want to share one of the things that they got upset about and what do
you think your mind was telling you needed to be fixed and it’s not uncommon
to have people get upset about very similar things but identify that
different ways of fixing it so then you know I summarize and identify that you
know Sam and Julie both had similar issues but they fixed it in different
ways and so there’s not always one way to fix something but encouraging people
to be psychologically flexible and willing to look at different options to
fix a problem we’ll talk about whether holding on to upsetness did any good if
you know they got upset about it and if it’s one of the ten things that makes
the list probably with something they’re still thinking about so does holding on
to that do any good and that’s generally a no and they shake their head okay we
go to the next question what was your initial reaction when this happened and
was it helpful so for everybody who shared you know I’ll go back around and
I’ll ask them that question when your boss told you that you were going to
have to work late or whatever it was what was your initial reaction and you
know your initial thoughts were whatever what were your initial behaviors and was
it helpful and sometimes they do choose helpful behaviors you know their initial
reaction was one of frustration and disgust and disdain and all kinds of
stuff but they chose to say yes sir and you know the boss walked out but then
they dwelled on it dwell well anyways they were unhappy about it
for the rest of the day and staying after and while they were working
overtime they were grumpy and disenchanted so we talked about what
could you just different ly the next time to change or fix the situation and
improve the moment so when you’re working that overtime what could you do
is it doing you any good to hold on to this resentment for having to work late
how can you change how you feel about the situation and walk the middle path
you know when I think about overtime hopefully we’re talking about an hourly
employee so at least they’re getting overtime pay and if all else fails
how could you practice radical acceptance and just let it go accept it
is what it is I’ve got to work a double tonight I don’t want to but I have to
how can you accept that and be able to be okay with it in mental relapse
there’s a war going on in their minds most of the time part of them wants to
stay positive they want to stay on that recovery path but part of them is
struggling with tolerating the distress and this is where we come in this is you
know where we shine because we are really good at helping people find tools
to help them tolerate the distress but first we’ve got to understand what the
distress is signs of mental relapse are focusing on the negative and or having a
pessimistic helpless or hopeless attitude so when people are in group or
even an individual session and I notice that their attitude has changed a little
bit I call them out on it and I’m like you know I noticed that you seem to be
struggling a lot more with having a positive outlook what changed
helping them identify early on when they start getting a little bit more negative
when I do IOP one of the reasons I love IOP as you see people so much it’s easy
to you know on a day-to-day basis you see them and you can say you know what
today you’re seeming kind of off I’m wondering if something happens
if you’ve got extra stuff going on a lot of times in early recovery when people
are still in IOP or or even outpatient they may not be self-aware enough to
actually pick up on it they just know that they’re exhausted so we can help
people identify that their distress may be getting kind of to a boiling point if
people have an addiction during a mental relapse they also may start thinking
about people places and things they used with and I use the term used very very
loosely we’re talking about all sorts of addictions from substances to gambling
to sex to pornography so they but they start thinking about those behaviors and
the times when they were using glamorizing that use going off if I
could only get back there I could be happy for five minutes they start lying
to themselves and others about what they’re doing about whether they’re
thinking about it justifying any behaviors they start
getting more manipulative they minimize the impact of just one drink one hit one
bit one evening of internet porn whatever it is for them and eventually
they get to a point where it’s just kind of a screw at attitude it’s like I don’t
want to live like this and a lot of times one of my clients talked about how
it was hard to stay clean and early recovery because everything was grey
there were no colors there were no highs there were no lows because we know you
know we clinicians know that the neurotransmitters responsible for your
excitatory responses your norepinephrine and your glutamate and to a certain
extent your dopamine they’re not being released nearly as easily right now so
it’s hard to get excited about anything because your brain is not letting you so
it’s hard to stay clean and sober for that particular client he did
significantly better when he got on some psychotropics in order to help him get
through that period until the brain balanced out but you know it’s going to
be different for the client the point is being aware that
if somebody has an addiction that addiction was their best friend before
they stopped using it didn’t judge them when they used it made them happy or at
least made them forget and it was pretty infallible you know if it if half a
bottle of whatever didn’t do it they drank a whole bottle you know sometimes
it took a little bit more but eventually it would kick in and they would get that
numbing or that escape that they needed in order to tolerate their distress we
don’t want them to have to go back there we don’t want them to have to escape
from it we want them to develop the tools so they can survive the distress
so again encouraging people to identify things that trigger negative fucks now
negative emotions are you know depression anger anxiety a yachtie
negative thoughts are those pessimistic you know kind of rabbit holes you can go
down where you hear something on TV that really ticks you off and you just go
spiraling with it and you know Chicken Little the sky is falling whatever
people certain people can trigger negative thoughts if they oftentimes if
they’re negative themselves but we want to look at you know what triggers a
negative attitude in you and I know for myself I have certain hot-button issues
that just really grind my gears and it can trigger negative thoughts in me and
being aware event and being aware when I encounter one of those triggers I can
adjust accordingly but our clients and early recovery have not developed that
stop and adjust part they just feel it and they start thinking negatively so
again encouraging them to identify the thoughts that they have that makes them
feel those negative ways you know I’m a fan of charts and so here’s another one
you can have people list their feelings the unpleasant feelings they frequently
have down here across the top the fears that
they’re related to and we want them to identify the thoughts that make them
feel angry irritated and resentful that relate to their loss of control identify
the thoughts that make them feel angry that relate to feeling feelings of
failure identify the thoughts that are make them feel angry that are related to
isolation you see how this goes the other way you can do it again in a group
setting and I love group because you’ve got so many different perspectives
coming in and I think it’s more helpful but so if you do this in a group setting
you can each one of these little squares can be a flipchart page around the room
and you can do maybe one emotion each group so we can talk about angry what
angry thoughts are related to loss of control and then the next station is
what angry thoughts are related to a fear of failure and then you can talk
about that normalize it for the group about the thoughts that many people have
that are related to for example a fear of failure and why it makes them angry
because a fear of failure triggers our fight-or-flight response so anger is a
natural response and then we can talk about what to do about it when you start
having those thoughts when you start having thoughts of everybody’s against
me or whatever the thoughts are how do you counter those so to prevent mental
relapse we want to keep it simple trying to change too many things at once can
lead to failure so really hasn’t focused on one or two
things and going back to that last slide for example if you find that they have a
theme that a lot of their anger triggers the thoughts that trigger their anger
are related to a fear of failure and rejection all right well that tells me
let’s try to work on some self-esteem but you want to find us that the
opposite issue for them to work on so if they’re
afraid of failure then we need to work on developing acceptance but we don’t
want to have them try to change everything all at once so we’re just
going to focus on that one thing and they probably have other dysfunctional
thoughts we all do but let’s let’s start somewhere and remember that some of the
simplest things can have the greatest impact so they don’t have to change the
world overnight they don’t have to become a whole different person
overnight let’s change one or two things about themselves that they want to work
on changing we also want them to prevent an address vulnerability so they can
focus that can make them focus on negative things or have strong negative
emotional reactions so we go through the whole vulnerabilities thing make sure
they’re eating getting quality sleep I check in with everybody about how they
slept in in group or an individual to make sure that they’re paying attention
to not only the quantity but the quality of their sleep and then good orderly
direction and this is for those planners out their life and recovery can be
viewed like a road map the destination is recovery and happiness and so before
you act think whether that keeps you on the right road from where you are right
now wherever it is to your destination or is it an unplanned detour I have
absolutely no sense of direction and even if there’s a traffic jam on the
interstate and I have to get off I end up getting turned around and wasting a
whole lot of gas and spending a whole lot of time I didn’t need to spend
trying to figure out how to get around the traffic jam because it was just
going to take too long and recovery is kind of the same way a lot of people
will detour from the main road because they don’t want to wait recovery is
taking too long it’s not as fun is there’s something and you know if you
detour around it it could take you a lot longer you could actually end up
backtracking so staying on the path and being patient is part of it and
maintaining head heart and gut honesty we talked about
this in dialectical behavior therapy the head being your rational mind the heart
being your emotional mind and the gut being your wise mind because it takes
the logical and the emotional and synthesizes the two and if all three of
those say yeah this is a good idea then you’re probably good to go so just like
the negative stuff we talk about positive things what thoughts can people
have and this is what I want on their thought Journal that can help them feel
empowered and happy what thoughts can they have that can help them feel
successful and happy accepted and happy I have them keep a sheet you know it’s
generally just one page of pleasant thoughts that they can review about
themselves or about their situation that help remind them that they’ve got this
they are capable they are resilient they are able to succeed in whatever they’re
doing right now they are acceptable and lovable and they have to come up with
that because you know you can tell them to tell themselves all kinds of things
but if they don’t believe it it won’t do any good so I want them to identify
their self empowering thoughts and their thoughts about how they are successful
and what they’re successful in so social relapse is returning to the same old
people in places who cosign on your stuff and this is very very true for
addiction but it’s also true in anxiety and depression because when we get into
this negative frame of mind because we’re anxious were worried or
pessimistic we’re you know any of those things a lot of times our attitude is
you know such that we attract people who are having similar thoughts and they’re
going to cosign and they’re going to validate it which is
take you further down that negative spiral of the sky is falling and
everything is going to wherever in a handbasket so encouraging people to
maintain social supports that are positive uplifting and keep them going
in the right direction and maybe be neutral with with regard to you know
whatever the stuff is that you you might want them to co-sign on but they won’t
tolerate you being like worried and pessimistic about everything they’ll be
like you know what you are just freaking out today what the heck sometimes that’s
all it takes is a good friend to call you out and go you know what you’re
getting back into old behaviors other signs of social relapse are withdrawing
from social supports because your social supports will call you out on your stuff
so you don’t you want to be called out so you hide becoming self-centered it’s
all about me and feeling like everything is a personal attack or just withdrawing
all together and kind of going into bed not only from your social supports but
also from yourself you’re not even checking in doing mindfulness activities
you’re just sitting there watching Oprah and eating bonbons I think she saw as a
channel on somewhere but social relapse is critical because our social supports
are some of our greatest buffers against stress and they’re also some of the
first people that can call us on those early relapse warning signs ago hey
there’s something a little bit different about you today are you doing okay so
encouraging again looking at the triggers for social relapse are there
things that encourage you or trigger you to push people away or to basically hide
away preventing social relapse contact your social support or supports on a
daily basis for the first three months after you start recovering and that sounds difficult and it is I
mean it takes some practice to get used to but reaching out and calling them it
doesn’t have to be a long discussion and it could just be a text or a couple of
texts you know if you don’t you’re not big on the phone but reaching out and
establishing that contact keep a business card in your wallet with the
names of three social supports so if you’re having a moment you know who you
can call now with smartphones keep it on your easy dial screen or whatever it is
change your phone number if possible and destroy contact information for people
who might trigger a relapse this is more true for people with addictions you
don’t want your dealer calling you but it is also true for people who are
trying to get out of anxiety and depression and they have a lot of people
in their life who are depressed and anxious and you know calling them a lot
and they feel like it’s a trigger now it may not feel like a trigger for them so
that’s obviously their call but definitely for people recovering from
addiction we don’t want your dealers calling you and we don’t want other
people trying to find stuff calling find at least one pro-social activity to do
each week volunteer go to church go to the gym I mean I’m not asking you to do
go out to the library some of these you don’t even have to interact with other
people but you’re around other people you’re engaging you know in the same
place with them if nothing else a lot of people find it helps them from
withdrawing quite as much if they have to get out and interact what triggers
can you put in your environment to remind you to use these tools and I may
be a little bit overboard on alarms on your smartphone I find that works
easiest for me because I never know if I’m going to be at work or down at the
barn or up at the house or where I’m going to be at any particular time and
that reminds me that I need to do something but
whatever works for people and some people may choose to save all their
recovery activities kind of for the end of the day so they only need one alarm
that’s cool physical relapse is characterized by
fatigue increased anxiety difficulty sleeping neglecting physical health and
if there was an addiction there also may be cravings and dreams about the drug
once people start getting more anxious or angry or neglecting their physical
health and not getting enough sleep you know that HPA axis starts going into
overdrive and it’s going to start altering hormonal imbalance hormonal
balances and neurotransmitter levels when people are starting to physically
relapse we know the emotional relapse probably isn’t far behind and vice-versa
so remember the acronym halt hungry angry lonely and tired hungry obviously
people need good nutrition but people can also be hungry for happiness so
encourage them to nourish their mind with activities and things that increase
they’re happy chemicals if you are angry you want to reduce chronic stress if
you’re lonely you want to nurture social supports to buffer that stress and be
willing to ask for help if you’re tired make sure that you get quality
sufficient sufficient quality sleep and address any issues that are preventing
quality sleep but also remember that tired can also mean just kind of being
over it I know there are times being a parent I’ve walked in to the house and I
just put down my stuff in life I’m like yo I’m really tired of coming home to
fill in the blank so encourage people to think about tired as not only just
sleepy but over it and you know frustrated with something all of these
can help prevent physical relapse encourage people to review their story
what is life like when they’re happy what’s different what’s the same because
these are the things the things that this is what they want their life to be
like so let’s start building those up let’s worry less about eliminating I
mean we’re going to address those things but while we’re eliminating behaviors we
also want to be adding adding those behaviors back that were there and
present when the person was happy have them identify three ways they know they
can cope with stress it may not be the healthiest way all the time but at least
they know have them identify things that they’d like to do because remember we’re
putting in triggers for happiness activities and have them increase their
awareness of their positive qualities and strengths I have my clients keep it
on that sheet they have a gratitude journal and then they have a sheet that
has their positive qualities on it you know all these things they can go back
and review when they’re having a negative moment and kind of get their
head back on to the recovery path and encourage them to review prior relapses
and we all have them if you know you’ve had a depressive episode if whatever
happens you even if you are just trying to start eating healthier and you’re
doing really good and then one weekend is just like a free-for-all okay well
what happened before that relapse what was going on why did you choose this
other behavior and a lot of times you’ll find that people had quit engaging in
their recovery behaviors or what they were doing whatever it was wasn’t
providing the level of reward that the behaviors were so if you’re eating
healthfully and maybe you’re just really trying and you’ve changed your diet a
hundred percent and you’re not getting the same satisfaction out of your food
and your mealtime as you were before then that could prompt a relapse so
encouraging people when they make changes to make sure that it’s equally
rewarding relapses occur when old behaviors are more rewarding than and
and or stronger than new ones so what became more rewarding than the recovery
program why was behavior more rewarding and I’m not
judging I just want to know why because we’ve got to change the recovery program
to meet that need so you don’t feel compelled to relapse again before you’ve
relapsed in the past what has changed in your emotions thoughts behaviors and how
you interacted with others most people if they look back over two or three
relapses will start to see some patterns encourage them to create a plan
identifying the most common pitfalls for their relapses what they can do to
prevent those pitfalls and identify what’s worked in the past let’s build on
that let’s start on what they already have encourage them to create a schedule
including recovery react recovery activities their work of course
reflection time and this doesn’t have to be 30 minutes or an hour it can be 10
minutes while they’re taking a shower or something or they just kind of reflect
and do their mindfulness activity positive health behaviors including
nutrition exercise and sleep so make sure they schedule in plenty of time for
quality sleep and maybe moving around a little bit
and nurturing positive relationships this is one we forget to include and a
lot of relapse prevention plans they need to have time scheduled in somewhere
or they need to make time somewhere to actually interface with people
intentionally and the Forgotten parts the two main things people forget when
they try to make a change plan is that we do what we do for a reason
in any substitution must fill the same function to the same degree and that’s
hard I mean when you’re talking about somebody with an addiction to cocaine
you’re like how can we replace the same and you’ve got to look at the big
picture of what they were trying to do they were trying to feel better so we’ve
got to figure out how they can feel better in recovery you wouldn’t replace
chocolate with celery on a diet you at best or at least replace it with an
apple or something sweet probably so we want to look at what was the function of
that old behavior and make sure we’re still fulfilling that function
it’s more about living a healthier lifestyle guided by purposeful action
than removing any one behavior if you remove the behavior with an app without
an adequate replacement you’re going to relax most likely so if you tell
somebody to stop smoking you know go cold turkey and when you get stressed
mmm oh no you know you’ll figure it out that’s not going to work we need to give
them a tool to put in place so ok if they’re not smoking and they get
stressed and they used to cope by strict cope with stressed by smoking what are
they going to do we can’t just take away that behavior and go good luck Godspeed
if you remove the behavior but are still around the same people places and things
you may relapse because all those triggers are there you may not be able
to change all of them but you need to be aware of them so you can deal with them
and if you’re immersed in positive activities you’re going to have less
time to make the wrong choices so encouraging people to avoid as much dangerous time you know some people need
downtime or idle time each day but removing as much dangerous time as
possible is going to be important in early recovery and you know it depends
on what your triggers are I bite my fingernails when I watch TV you know I
know the growth habit but I found that if I crochet while I’m watching TV I
can’t bite my fingernails so have some competing responses in there too all
right increase increasing motivation you want
to do some decisional balance exercises you want to strengthen the clients
commitment to the benefits of the new behavior and awareness of the drawbacks
to the old behavior and you want to decrease how they view the benefits of
the old behavior and you want to decrease any potential drawbacks or
hesitations about the new behavior encourage them to find meaning and
everything after the do an activity or read any literature
related to recovery ask themselves what was in this for me
and what’s one thing I can take away from this even if it only reminded you
how much you don’t want to go back to that old behavior again in our
unhappiness we often forget what makes us happy or neglect the things we love
all work and no play puts you at risk even if a lot of work is on the recovery
make a list of things you enjoy doing would like to do and anybody that might
have similar interests and try to do at least five of these things a week fives
a big one but if we’re just talking about playing a game of Scrabble you
know you can probably work that in include time in the morning and at night
to use mindfulness skills to get grounded identify and prevent or
mitigate vulnerabilities each day so once you figure out what your
vulnerabilities are do something about it avoid that dangerous time if your
mind tends to wander to dark places incorporate positive experiences each
day set realistic goals and give yourself credit for positive
accomplishments even if it’s just getting through a meeting without biting
somebody’s head off relapse triggers can be emotional mental physical or social
for each trigger people identify have them describe at least one way they can
deal with it encourage them to practice mindfulness each day to become aware of
their personal vulnerabilities for relapse and for each general category of
relapse emotional mental physical social have them identify three things they can
do to continue their journey towards happiness recovery whatever you want to
call it okey dokey we are done I appreciate you hanging with me do you
have any questions I saw somebody to type something back here earlier okay let’s see one of the participants
in class today shared this from Notre Dame on workplace wellness so you may be
interested in that feel free to check it out if you have any questions or
comments or concerns please let me know you can always reach me at my email if
you have any questions about any of the clinical or you know educational
material well thank you for being here everybody have an amazing weekend if
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